Principles and Questions of a Wise Owl Parent
Wise parenting is about understanding what can be changed and what cannot be changed, and so needs to be let go of.
Wise parenting is recognising what developmental stage of life your child is at, so that you can keep expectations realistic while supporting their growth.
Wise parenting is about knowing what is important and what is just the small stuff that can safely be ignored or given little attention. Wise parenting is recognising when your own tank is empty and adjusting accordingly. Wise parenting means following your own values and what resonates with you, while also remaining open to new learning.
Wisdom Questions for Parents
Is this action taking me closer to, or further away from, the parent I want to be, based on my values?
Is this action how I want my child to remember me being?
What does my child really need from me right now?
What do I want my child to learn in this situation?
What can I do to make it more likely that they will learn?
Would it be better if I did nothing and let the situation teach my child naturally?
Or do I need to intervene and say or do something to help them learn in this situation?
The Branches of Wisdom;
Wise Owl Principals I encourage you to develop
Become the parent you want your child to remember: acting intentionally based on your values.
Swimming with the current: live in the season of life your child is actually in right now
Flowing with your child's development.
Being, rather than doing.
Parenting at the emotional age your child is showing right now, in this moment, not necessarily their
biological age. Allowing healthy regression will meet their deeper need and resolve the situation more fully.
Your attention is gold to your child. Use it wisely to focus on all the good stuff that you want to grow.